Add sql matcher toSetColumns

```ts
toSetColumns([
  "column_a",
  "column_b"
], { onConflict: ["column_a"] });
```

verifies that "column_a" and "column_b" are set when inserting into a table, and also sets "column_b" when the insert conflicts on column "column_a".

It also verifies the correct order of columns.

This deprecates `toUseColumnsInCorrectOrder` for inserts.